On my New Years Eve post, I shared with you some ideas to help make this year just a bit more simple. Many mama’s emailed me to let me know how much they appreciated those idea’s (glad to help!). There was one suggestion on that list that seemed to really hit home with many and in just the few weeks that I have implemented it myself (I like to start before the official new year) I’ve already seen many positive changes.
Give up something on your “one day” list
At first the idea of giving something up scared me.
What was I willing to give up?
For how long?
What terrible thing might happen if I give it up?
Does that mean I’m a quitter?
I needed to put things in perspective.
The real reason I felt I need to give things up was because it was pulling my time and energy from things that are necessary now.
- Like planning more science experiments for my 9 year old rascal (he’s my budding scientist).
- And going outside in the sunshine more.
- And organizing the toys before I throw them all out because I just can’t take it anymore.
- And making hubby his breakfast and lunch to take to work because he wants to eat healthier.
- And stopping everything in the middle of the day for 15 min so that I can read to my little rascals before their nap.
- And start my day off with a Bible study and prayer because I don’t function well without it.
So those things were on my “to do” list, but what was I willing to drop?
I am no super woman nor do I care to be. I can’t do it all. I needed to give things up…but what?
- Watching T.V. in the evening.
- Bootcamp or other gym commitment. I’ll just need to find creative ways to do my own bootcamp workout while the boys play outside.
- Additional extracurricular activities for my boys.
- Making up any new recipes.
- Making certain foods from scratch when there is a very good pre-made version available (like spaghetti sauce, chicken broth and laundry soap).
And then there are things that just need to wait…
- Fixing up my patio and having a garden. It’s enough that I sweep it up an keep the spider webs to a minimum for now.
- Taking a dance or photography class. It’ll just have to wait until my hubby finishes school in about a year.
- Starting business…my children are still so young and need so much. I just wouldn’t be able to launch that, be there for my family, take care of my home and of course, write for my blog here.
- Learn how to sew which is especially hard at the moment because I bought a few Disney pillow sew kits on sale, I have a yearning to make an apron like this and this sewing machine is on super sale on Amazon! Perhaps in the summer…
As soon as I start to add more things or trick myself into feeling guilty about not doing those things on my “one day” list, I let stress ruin the joy of this season of my life…
…when my “baby” is just leaving toddler-hood and entering the exciting years of preschool.
…when my middle little rascal becomes more independent and inquisitive.
…when my eldest is on his last years of boyhood and if I blink I’ll miss it.
…when my hubby and I celebrate our 10th wedding anniversary and discover that though we are still madly in love, commitment and vows still need to be renewed everyday.
**What are you willing to give up or put on hold for the sake of freedom?
**What will you be able to focus your attention on when you give it up?