It’s rare to find a mama that doesn’t have a day full of things that must get done.
Working, driving, feeding, taking, giving, bathing, wiping, sweeping, folding, writing, reading, building, shopping, bargaining, tidying, playing, making, hugging, sighing, exercising, crying, planning, smiling–all that before noon.
You’ll find some posts in the archives about downsizing and simplifying, but this isn’t one of those posts.
This post assumes that you’ve already examined all the possibilities of letting something go, postponing it, or delegating it to someone else (Think adding it to the rascals chores, having a leftover night or two, or asking another mom to do afterschool pickups).
Nope. There’s nothing that you can let go, and it all must get done to some degree of completion.
I applaud you for chasing your goals with such ferocity, but my darling, you’re in danger of burning out. And a burned out mama ain’t gonna do anybody any good.
Keep that momentum going by adding these easy-peasy tips to avoid burnout. This busy mama swears by them!
- Visit a Cafe, Tea House, or Wine Bar. Weekly If Possible. Bonus points if you can go with a friend, extra bonus points if you can go without the rascals. Even at the busiest coffee shops, things seem to slow down a bit. If I have to go with the rascals, I’ll have them take a tablet and headphones and enjoy my 20 min of lounging with my drink –my coffee, that is! No rascals at the wine bar. Felt like I needed to make that clear.
- Listen To Positive Messages Or Motivational Speeches. My rascals and I have a ritual of listening to a feel good or motivational speeches on YouTube on our morning school drop off’s. It gets everyone in an “I Can” mood.
- Avoid Complaining. There are two truths about complaining: 1. If you don’t have to do it, then don’t and stop complaining about it 2. If it’s something that must get done, then why complain? It must get done. Please don’t think that I expect you never to complain. It’s no secret that long for the day that I hire someone else to do my laundry and mop my floors. But I make it a point to keep complaining to a minimum –and even celebrate things that others complain about (like work).
- Give and Recieve Affection. Touch is such a powerful decompressor and revitalizer. If you have a partner, please hug, kiss, caress, snuggle, and make love more often. With your rascals both big and small, it’s miraculous what a little nestling on the couch together can do for the soul. Not the touchy-feely type? Carve out an hour or so weekly to spend time with your gal pal!
- Write Down Your Goals and Reasons. I begin to inch closer to burnout when I’ve lost focus on my goals. Whether it’s goals for the month, the next six months or even the next five years, write down your goals and review them. A morning and nightly review are best. A daily review is also fantastic, but at the very least read your goals aloud once a week.