Three wine glasses in and relieved to have avoided the question, my friend of over 20 years told me about her latest archeological adventures in Latin America.
So how’s the book coming along?
There is was –the question I had hoped to avoid.
“It’s a slow go,” I admitted sheepishly and I quickly took another sip of wine to sidestep the need to say anything more.
What followed were words of encouragement, as good friends do when they hit a nerve. But still it left me feeling flustered and wondering:
why would I procrastinate doing something that I enjoyed?
I had an idea, but I asked a buddy what he thought about procrastination. He’s the kind of guy that knocks you over with a feather with his insights. He’s also my go-to guy for life’s questions. Here’s what he responded to my late night text:
- We think we’re not good at it. We tend to focus on those things we feel capable in.
- It’s boring or unrewarding.
- It involves discomfort. Instead, we turn our attention to something pleasurable.
I let that settle in overnight, and woke up with a few more reasons why we (mostly me…most definitely me) might be avoiding doing things we enjoy:
- It’s hard work.
- It involves learning something new and we don’t want to put the effort
- Fear of embarrassment or failure.
- Fear that we will not be able to sustain the success or replicate it. (one-hit-wonder syndrome)
We often joke about our tendency to put things off. We even have silly names for it like “lollygag” and “dillydally”, but the truth is that procrastination has serious consequences.
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1. Balkis, M., & Duru, E. (2007). The Evaluation of the Major Characteristics and Aspects of the Procrastination in the Framework of Psychological Counseling and Guidance. Educational Sciences: Theory & Practice, 7(1), 376-385.